When we finally stopped procrastinating and sat down to write our wedding ceremony, we only had a few definite thoughts in mind. We wanted the ceremony to be simple, sweet, and thoroughly us. We also wanted the ceremony to be accessible to all of our guests (i.e. older family members who did not engage in social media and fan culture) while still staying true to our sense of humor.

The result is a fantastically classical ceremony imbued with little touches that, instead of being heavy-handed jokes forced on our guests, allowed those in the know to take a moment to smile, chuckle a little, and move on without losing those unfamiliar.

We also managed to Rick-Roll everyone, so, success.

Our pre-processional medley involved ungodly amounts of orchestral video game music, ranging from Kingdom Hearts to Uncharted and hitting everything in between. We’re pretty disappointed we didn’t actually get to hear much of this, to be quite honest. We did, however, hear the Fairytale Weddings version of “Can You Feel The Love Tonight” kick off as our bridal party made their way down the aisle, followed by a section of How To Train Your Dragon’s “Forbidden Friendship” as I finally made my entrance (crying. A lot.).

The rest of the ceremony went like this.

GATHERING WORDS/II. ACKNOWLEDGMENT OF FAMILY & FRIENDS

Welcome!

Good afternoon friends, family, and you back there. We’re all gathered in this beautiful garden to share a very important moment in Stacey and Robby’s lives. No, not the release date for the next Game of Thrones book–sorry!–, but to celebrate how their love and understanding for each other has grown and matured, bringing them before you today ready to live their lives together as husband and wife.

Marriage is a bond to be entered into only after considerable thought and reflection.Marriage is having a confidant, a partner in crime, and a best friend.  It’s having someone who will get your dumb jokes and obscure movie references.

Today, Stacey and Robby demonstrate their devotion to each other by dedicating themselves to a life together and show their respect for each other by embarking on a journey to honor the vows they make this day.

Today, their lives, which began on separate paths, will be joined as one.

Everyone present has been a major component of the couple’s journey to this point–both personal and as a pair–, watching and guiding as Stacey and Robby grew, changed, and became who they are now. They look eagerly toward the future where their loved ones will continue to support and influence their new life together.

The couple would like to thank both of their parents. Without them, they would not be the adults that they have become today. With the guidance and advice passed down to them, Stacey and Robby know that they will be the very best, like no one ever was.

They would like to thank their friends and family, who have supported them through the good times and the rough times. Through all the laughs and the moments of sadness and tears. They cherish the friendships that have lasted for years and remain strong and supportive into the future. They are grateful to share in this celebration with all present today.

As much as today is a celebration of Stacey and Robby’s marriage, it is also a celebration of their love, which is built upon the last nine years they have spent together and all the experiences encompassed by that time.

With so much love, support, and kindness surrounding them, they know that no power in the ‘Verse can stop them as they embark on this new chapter in their lives.

III. MARRIAGE ADDRESS

All of us here today have experienced our own love stories. Some are short, others long. Some are yet unwritten, while others are just getting to the good part. There are chapters in all of our stories that are sad or disappointing — and others that are exciting and full of adventure.

Stacey and Robby’s relationship has always been that: exciting and full of adventure. Whether it was their late night excursions to Target, navigating the intellectual waters in pursuit of higher education, seeing just how many times they can ride Indiana Jones in a row at Disneyland, or expanding their ongoing collection of cosplay for Comic-Con, the two were always on an unexpected journey, constantly showered with an outpouring of love and support from every side. Their shared passions have ensured that they never run out of new options to explore.

Now we are here. In this moment on the 8th of November. We take the time to pause, look back, and smile at all the moments that brought them to this point, and we take the time to look ahead at all the moments that are still to come.

We’re all here because we want those moments for you. We’re here to hope with you, to support you, to be proud of you, and to remind you that love isn’t happily ever after. Love is the experience of crafting your own story, your own adventure. It’s not one moment — not even this moment. It’s every moment. The Big ones–saying “I love you,” getting engaged, moving in together, — but mostly a million little ones that fall in between. Falling asleep next to one another, making dinner together, spending holidays with your families, binge-watching Netflix on a lazy Sunday afternoon, getting a big hug when you get home from work… These everyday moments fuse together into one big experience.

It’s a work in progress, but it is a work in progress tackled by two minds, two spirits…two people ready to take on whatever life may throw at them, together.

READING 

Song (Two Doves Upon A Selfsame Branch)

Two doves upon the selfsame branch,

 Two lilies on a single stem,

Two butterflies upon one flower:–

 O happy they who look on them.

Who look upon them hand in hand

 Flushed in the rosy summer light;

Who look upon them hand in hand

 And never give a thought to night.

HANDFASTING

Hand in hand, we gain the strength to overcome many struggles and approach even the bleakest of situations with hope. As a reminder that they shall walk hand in hand always, I ask Robby and Stacey to please join hands so that they may be fasted in the ways of old. (cross hands to be bound)

These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as you build your future together

These are the hands that will hold you whenever illness, fear, or grief may find you.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children

These are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours

[BINDS HANDS] “In the presence of your family and friends, I now bind your hands together, to symbolize your new union of love, trust, and friendship. Now, look upon one another and pledge your vows to seal your union.”

handfasting

MARRIAGE STATEMENT OF INTENT/CONSENT

Stacey and Robby, do you, with family and friends as your witnesses, present yourselves willingly and of your own accord to be bound together in marriage?
[WE DO]

Will you promise to support each other in the joys and sorrows of life, come what may, and to share the responsibility for growth and enrichment of your life together?
[WE DO]

Do you promise to never give one another up, never let each other down, and never desert one another?
[WE DO]

Do you promise to always feed one another when you are hungry or grumpy or too preoccupied with a project to do so yourself?
[WE DO]

Do you promise to always treat one another as best friend and equal, to ask for help when you need it, and offer help always?
[WE DO]

Do you promise to never let anything come between you, to fight for one another, to love through good times and challenging times, and to always maintain a sense of humor?
[WE DO]

VII. VOWS

I hereby seal these two souls, binding them as one for eternity. Look upon one another and say the words.

You. Me. We. Us. Friend. Guide. Lover. I am yours, you are mine, from this day until the end of our days.

VIII. RING EXCHANGE

For thousands of years,

Lovers have exchanged rings as a token of their vows

Let these precious rings be a sign that love has a past, a present, and a future through you

Robby, take Stacey’s ring, place it on her finger, and repeat after me:

I give you this ring as a sign that I choose you

To be my lover, my player two, and my best friend, to the end of my days and extra lives

Wear it, think of me, and know that I love you

Stacey, take Robby’s ring, place it on his finger, and repeat after me:

I give you this ring as a sign that I choose you

To be my lover, my player two, and my best friend, to the end of my days and extra lives

Wear it, think of me, and know that I love you

WELL WISHES

Stacey and Robby, I offer these good wishes to you on this special day.

May your life together be blessed with prosperity and good health.

May you always share open and honest communication between each other.

May you respect each other’s individual talents and gifts and give full support to each other’s professional and personal pursuits.

May you cherish the home and family you will create together.

May all the years to come be filled with moments to celebrate and renew your love.

May your love be a life-long source of excitement, contentment, affection, respect, and devotion for one another.

READING (The Last Unicorn)

And this is what they sang as they went away together, out of this story and into another:
“‘I am no king, and I am no lord,
And I am no soldier at arms, said he.
‘I’m none but a harper, and a very poor harper,
That am come hither to wed with ye.
“‘If you were a lord, you should be my lord,
And the same if you were a thief, said she.
‘And if you are a harper, you shall be my harper,
For it makes no matter to me, to me,
For it makes no matter to me.
“‘But what if it prove that I am no harper?
That I lied for your love most monstrously?
‘Why, then I’ll teach you to play and sing,
For I dearly love a good harp, said she.”

There is always  time for love and time to hold one another close. Time to cherish the moments that have shaped the story of love we celebrate now. We look back on the songs of happiness and sighs of sadness from the past and look forward to those that are yet to come. But more importantly, we look on this moment, a time to rejoice in the bond between two people that stand before you today.

PRONOUNCEMENT

By the power vested in me and in view of all gathered here, it is my pleasure and great honor to present to you Mr. and Mrs. Robby and Stacey Shuttleworth, Husband and Wife.

You may now seal your vows with a kiss.

And then we marched on out of there arm in arm to Imagine Dragon’s “Top of the World“.

laughing

Writing your own ceremony is a deeply personal choice, and it’s most certainly a labor of love and exertion. While it was an extremely fun process to undergo, it also led to many moments of exasperation as we tried desperately to figure out what we had to have, what we could add, and where these things fit. We referenced countless generic scripts and looked over many completely original and nerdy versions. We borrowed from some of the traditional formats, and rewrote things to suit us personally. The fantastic rewriting of the vows from Game of Thrones was found here. The Offbeat Bride brought an amazing amount of inspiration as well, and Wedding Bee was our go-to for the basic skeleton of the ceremony. It was truly a bonding experience, and looking back on it, I can see that we really poured ourselves into the script.

Did you write your own ceremony? Are you planning on doing so? What touches make a wedding ceremony your own? We’d love to hear about your personal touches or hopes for the perfect ceremony! Let us know in the comments, or tweet us @NerdsDoingStuff

Writer. Cosplayer. Binge Netflix Watcher. Anime Dweeb. Book Enthusiast. Harbours inappropriately strong feelings about Shakespeare and William Blake. Once lost a whole day theorizing about Game of Thrones. The most motivated procrastinator she knows. Sometimes it works out in her favor. Mostly just causes widespread panic. It's all good though, because she never forgets her towel.

2 thoughts on “Nerdspiration: Crafting a Classically Nerdy Ceremony

  1. Hey guys, I would absolutely love to feature your wedding on the engagedandready.com wedding blog, especially since you got some inspiration for your ceremony from my Game of Thrones inspired vows (Awesome!). Your ceremony script is amazing and in sharing it with my readers, it would be so well received. Can you email me please, if you’re interested (hope so!). Sorry to contact you here, but cannot see any way to contact you via your blog or social media.

    1. Absolutely! Your blog was an amazing inspiration and we were so excited about the idea! We’ll follow up with an email shortly 🙂

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