Here’s how it happened: He got down on one knee in front of a brightly lit fountain, gave a romantic speech about how much he loved me, and asked me to officially spend the rest of my life with him. While dressed as Kristoff from that little Disney movie called Frozen. While I was dressed as Princess Anna. Saturday night of Wondercon 2014. It was the end of the day, my wig had been slipping for a solid two hours, and we had just finished dancing with wild abandon to an impromptu band outside the Anaheim Convention Center. Our friends were trying to be nonchalant as they snapped photos and took video leading up to the Big Moment.
Of course, no decent photo of the actual moment exists, but there are at least photos, and despite their blurriness I am grateful.
Basically, our life and relationship has been imbued with nerdity from the get go. I wouldn’t want it any other way. We take pride in our fandom, our love of pop figures and comics and marathoning TV shows. We spend whole afternoons in silence as we read happily away, delve into deep caverns and fight off bandits together from our respective screens, or panic over cosplay the day before a convention starts. These crazy creative ventures are part of who were are. It wouldn’t feel right to plan a pretty, traditional wedding that doesn’t include stacks of books in the centerpieces or the Enterprise hanging surrounded by fairy lights. I’m not going to walk down the aisle with the Amulet of Mara prominent around my neck, exactly, but we have full intentions of incorporating our nerdier passions in where we can. I’m fully expecting confused florists and a baffled bakery when I ask for a small fondant Deadpool peeking out from the bottom of the cake. Because that’s happening.
We’re gearing up for a whole new kind of adventure as we navigate wedding etiquette—reportedly still alive, kicking, and very important to some people. And I get it, a little bit. There are quite a few wedding traditions that appeal to me, and a laundry list worth of ‘rules’ that are really just general courtesies that everyone should adhere to anyways. I’m sure I’m not alone in this feeling, either, the feeling of wanting something traditional enough to be universally recognized as a beautiful wedding but unique enough to feel like it belongs solely to the couple. So we embark on this new adventure, proudly arranging Serenity around a spray of flowers, getting down to an 8-bit remix on the dance floor, and maybe dropping a Princess Bride reference…or three.
It’s not quite time for that yet. For now, we happily set up a registry on ThinkGeek and dream about how we’re going to decorate our first apartment, sift through invitations in hopes of finding something that screams us, and bask in the moments we get to share along the way.